Having healthy and fulfilling relationships are so beneficial to our lives. Yet sometimes relationships are hard to navigate and can become a main source of stress and unhappiness.
Whether one's discontent lays in a romantic relationship, a parental, sibling or friendship relationship, or in one's relationship with one's child or children, its depth, intimacy, and harmony has a significant impact on our sense of well-being.
It is easy to fall into the pattern of blaming others, or excessive self-blame. While relationships require good communication skills - appropriate assertiveness, attentive listening and demonstrating understanding by paraphrasing someone's point of view, delivering feedback in a way that is palatable to the other - communication alone is not always sufficient to make resilient relationships. Compromise is key. And compromise is difficult, and often doesn't feel good. Also, self-exploration is critical, as is coming to a greater understanding of your own internal template for relationships that are formed in early childhood.
Research has shown that it is not how much arguing two people do, but if they fight "fair", and if they balance the arguments with a greater proportion of verbalized appreciation and gratitude. A paradox in many relationships is that if you want change, you may have to do more of the changing.
Sometimes people get stuck in a pattern of trying to get water from a stone. This means repeatedly trying to get something from your partner or relative that he or she is not capable of giving. I can help you navigate the sometimes turbulent waters you may find yourself in, develop ways to achieve more satisfaction in relationships, have appropriate expectations, or recognize when a relationship is unhealthy and help you walk away or draw better boundaries.